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Director's statement

We watch movies not only to escape, but to find ourselves in the characters, and ride the story with them. And I've found that in the content around me, something is missing. Where are the stories about gay men, in long-term committed relationships? Stories not about falling in love, but about making it last. In an industry of recycled plot points about breaks-ups, affairs, and one night stands, the examination of the long-term relationship is something that I crave more of and suspect that there are other people who feel the same. As a young closeted gay man, I wish I'd had a film like this to watch and think, Someday, I want this for myself. I hope That's Not Us can fill that space for other people.

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That’s Not Us is consistently warm and engaging, thanks to the assured performances by the entire cast.

IndieWire

Your eyes will be glued to long-term girlfriends Alex (Sarah Wharton) and Jackie (Nicole Pursell), who are struggling with lesbian bed death, but handle it–shockingly–like adults.

AfterEllen

With only seven cast members (and a dog), That's Not Us dives into the complexities and nuances of relationships, both sexual and nonsexual, without ever feeling quite as trite as mainstream "gay" movies.

Austin Chronicle

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